This morning I again found myself in the same place I find myself every morning: engaged in battle with my three-year-old daughter about what she is going to wear. No matter how difficult it is for me, I try to let her pick out her own clothes. And believe me, it IS difficult for me.”Are you SURE you want to wear a pink velour skirt with a red velour dress and purple pants?Yeah, that looks amaaaaazing.” Clearly, my three-year-old doesn’t grasp sarcasm yet, but with me as her mother I am sure that it won’t be long.
It is difficult to let her make her own mistakes…um… I mean, choices, but I want her to be able to express who she is – even if who she is is colorblind. I guess that is probably the one of the hardest things about raising children, right? Letting them make their own mistakes, and learn from them. Letting them be who they are, even if it’s not who you want them to be.
But, while I try to let her make her own decisions, at least regarding her clothes, I do draw the line at things that are inappropriate for one reason or another: Snow boots when it is 100 degrees outside, her fancy party dress that will likely turn into a cleaning rag after one day at school. Todays’ battle du jour was about a maxi-dress that she loves (and yes, I know it’s ridiculous that my three-year-old has a maxi-dress), but I don’t think is appropriate for running around and playing at school. Here’s a sampling of this morning’s conversation regarding said dress:
Lyla: “I want to wear THIS dress”
Me: “No honey, you know that’s not a good dress for school. How about one of these twelve dresses instead?”
L: “Nope. This is the one.”
M: “But honey, that dress is long. I’m worried that you won’t be able to run around and play at school.”
L: “Why can’t I run around and play?”
M: “Because I am scared that you will trip over the dress and fall.”
L (smiling brighter than the sun): “Oh mama, that’s ok. If I fall, I will just pick myself back up!”
And that, my friends, is solid proof of my theory that our children have so much more to teach us than we will ever teach them.
And also why my daughter is wearing her maxi-dress at school today.