If you didn’t before, check out my first featured article in Natural Child Magazine, and get your sexy back… or at least brush your teeth once in a while!
“I’m sexy and I know it!”
Ok, so maybe this is the song currently stuck in my head (curse you LMFAO and your catchy lyrics,) NOT the phrase that I am most likely to think while looking into the mirror. As a working mom of a ten-month-old baby, whose wardrobe usually consists of a variety of faded black yoga pants and whose highlights have grown so far out that they are now back in (ombre is so hot right now,) I desperately need to find my sexy. The only problem: I don’t know where I lost it.
I used to be hot once, if I do say so myself. Back in those days, I used to spend hours primping with my girlfriends. Then we would strut around the bar, preening like peacocks, daring any man to talk to us. Now-a-days I usually slink around with zero make-up and my hair in a dirty bun, praying that no one notices me, or worse… recognizes me. While I am married with a baby, and definitely not trying to snag a man, I miss that confident, sexy creature I used to be – or at least think I was. My problem is not that no one finds me sexy… my problem is that I don’t find myself sexy.
So what is the answer? How do you get your sexy back when you have no idea where to start looking? What I am not going to do is give you a list of “full-proof” tips guaranteed to make you feel sexier or make your sex life better. Every person is different and everyone’s likes, tastes and limits are different too (and discovering what yours are is a joy that I would never take from you!) But what I will do is give you one piece of advice… start making love to yourself. No, I’m not talking about this in the literal way, although that might be a big step for many women, what I am talking about is making time to do the things you love and that make you feel good about yourself.
Make regular appointments at the hairdresser, waxer or both. Hit the gym. Take the extra five minutes to put on some mascara and lip-gloss. Take a bath, take a class (brains are sexy too!) or take 15 minutes to meditate. Go buy some sexy new lingerie that fits the body you have right now, not the body you hope to have after six months of starving yourself. Whatever it is that makes you feel like the smart, sexy, beautiful woman that you are. I promise that she’s in there somewhere!
And most importantly, stop hiding out and slinking around. Hold your head up high and strut around the grocery store, office and your bedroom. You ARE sexy, and if you know it, chances are the world does too.